Personal development books are ten a penny. I’ve read a number and started and not finished even more. Some talk sense some talk utter drivel. I’ve just finished another – Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop. The blurb on the back says “the barrier is one thing only: You.” This is what drew me to the book when I picked it up in a book shop in Florida recently. The sort of tough love approach appealed to me.
It has taken till now to read it – I’ve read it in two sittings (it would have been one but I had to go cook tea). It is a relatively short book – just over 200 pages and a number of these are blank or which large quotes on. I have to admit it wasn’t really getting it till I got about half way in. I don’t blame the book or the writer for this – I blame my own focus. However from that point it gripped me and its simple statements resonated to what is holding me back and what I need to do if I want to avoid laying on my death bed regretting missed opportunities.
For fear of being in breach of copyright and angering the author but in the need for this to act as a kind of aide memoire for myself I am going to finish this review by quoting some of the things that really spoke to me and things I know I need to act upon – and I emphasise I NEED TO ACT ON. You will understand why I’ve stressed this when you read the book and I really do recommend you read this book. This is, in my opinion, one of the best books of its genre. There are no airy-fairy platitudes in here, but there are some painful but necessary self truths. It is an easy read but it isn’t – if that makes sense – but well worth it.
The link to the book on Amazon is here
Gary John Bishop has a website which can be accessed here.
“I am willing to…” What am I willing to do?
“I am unwilling to…” What am I unwilling to do?
Our aversion to risk, which was once necessary, no longer is.
Uncertainty is where things happen.
How will you get ahead in your career if you’re always holding on to the certainty of comfort?
“In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Fuck how you feel – ACT!
The more we try to stay comfortable today the more uncomfortable we’ll be tomorrow.
Embrace the Uncertainty
“If you want to improve be content to be thought foolish and stupid” – Epictetus
You change your life by doing not by thinking about doing.
Change your life by changing your actions.
I am not my thoughts I am what I do.
“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty” – Theodore Roosevelt
Operate outside your comfort zone
Stop doing all that shit you know you shouldn’t be doing and start doing all the shit you know you should be doing.
On some occasions you have to realise that the game has changed and you need to pivot. Deal with your reality.
“No man is free who is not master of himself” – Epictetus
… our subconscious is the puppet master that truly pulls the strings.
Expect nothing and accept everything – when you expect nothing you’re living in the moment and when you accept everything you are owning it and in charge of it.
Love the life you have not the one you expected to have.
If you want your life to be different YOU have to make it happen.
Get out of your mind and get out into your life.
“You are what you do not what you say you’ll do” – Carl Jung